I found this very wide tie in this luxurious Athens blue and Olympus gold. Made me feel like a total boss today! I needed this in the most Gothic Gourmet way.

It turns out that I am overdue to my…

Any recommendations for accounting / check writing software? Turns out this is the year for an upgrade on several levels and this is a really important one. Is there a software that you like? Why do you like it? Can…

The day after Thanksgiving, we pull out our Christmas decorations. 

This Santa Claus and Reindeers Tic Tac Toe game is one of our favorites that we set up on the red Mid-Century dining table. Every night through the Holidays, we…

I found the blog prompt, “Without you, nothing fits anymore.” and thought I would give it a crack.

Immediately I was dumbstruck with writer’s block – not because I can’t think of what to write but – because I have…

AWAKE IN BED is a chapter in my book, DEEPLY SLEEPLESS: 75 Collected Poems About Life, Death, & Everything

If you haven't purchased it yet, you can find it at Balboa Press and Amazon.

THOUGHTS ON THE CHAPTER

The thing…

When I was a small child, I didn't like to read. I liked to watch something, interpret it, and then direct or perform it back. I guess, as a kid, I was a doer, not a reader.

There were various…

There is something very self-care about getting HYGGE. Being cozy with a book and a cat in my lap is the way I turn off my ON SWITCH, which seems to always be ON.

I know my grandmother, were she…

Wow! Look at that baby Goth! Photoshoot was at my friend Stephan's house captured a bit of the lifestyle adventure that I have always promoted. Plus who doesn't love an accordion?!  Halloween Mid 2000s

Lifestyle Adventure KEYWORDS:

• FUN
• LIFE-AFFIRMING
• FREE…

This is a photo from the first photoshoot for The Gothic Gourmet in 1998 after a very active year in my role as the internet personality that started in 1997.

In January 1997, I desperately wanted to throw a Midnight…

LOVE, JOY CREATES. You get it, right?! It's poetic, and I even feel like it's a Shakespearean turn of a phrase, but it comes down to: JOY creates LOVE. 

JOY. It's what attracts and keeps love in your day, in…

"What joy have we in these moments brief,

bring breath to my aspiration."

Not sure if this is just self indulgent or appropriately promotional but my book is out in the world and there is so much that I have…

A man just walked up to and said, "When you smile your whole body smiles!" 

Why, yes Mister. It does! Thanks for noticing!

This photo is from the Carnival of Darkness Film Festival in Hollywood many years ago and is…

This is your sign. 

Go out. Hear the music in nature. Reconnect. 

Do it now!

GOTH WISDOM - Every hour can't be perfect. Every day can't be perfect. Every person can't be perfect. And so, the most imperfect person is the one who thinks everything must be perfect or else something is wrong. Most perfect,…